This morning started how it generally does. Get up, let the dog out, have a coffee and a smoke, go back to bed, cuddle the missus, get up, second coffee and smoke, let the dog out again, feed the bird, toddler wakes up, feed him, get dressed for work.
Today, while putting my tie on in the mirror, our toddler wanders over.
“why aren’t you putting pretties on your face dad?.
“well, Im a boy, so i don’t put pretties on my face, but Mum does.”
Shit…. what have i just said to him?! I thought. Both my partner and I think it is important to teach him that it is ok for people to be different, and do things other people don’t. I realised i may have just contradicted myself in that moment.
I respond quickly. “But some boys wear pretties, you can wear them too if you like. But i don’t like to.”
“oh, ok.” And he toddles off about his business. Waving his ‘wand’ (a stick from the backyard) yelling some Harry Potter spell at the dog.
Well, thought I’d add this. I felt like it was my good dad moment for the day. 🙂